STRATEGIC RELATIONSHIPS

Hello! Today, let’s delve into the topic of strategic relationships. You’ve probably heard the phrase “You cannot do life alone” multiple times. It applies not only to romantic relationships but also to friendships, covenant partnerships, work relationships, and acquaintances.

Strategic relationships are intentional connections and partnerships formed with the purpose of fulfilling God’s purposes and advancing His kingdom.

One crucial aspect is having a mentor. A mentor is an experienced individual who guides and supports a less experienced person in their growth. The mentor provides wisdom, encouragement, and accountability while helping the mentee navigate various aspects of life. So, who is your mentor? It is beneficial to have mentors in all areas of life, such as finances, spirituality, physical health, and relationships. Choose your mentors wisely and ensure you genuinely follow their godly instructions and advice. It is important not to merely label someone as your mentor without actively fulfilling the responsibilities of a mentee.

Accountability partners are also essential. These individuals hold each other responsible for their actions, behaviors, and commitments. They provide support and encouragement while helping each other stay aligned with their individual values and goals. An accountability partner plays a vital role in keeping you on track.

Remember, you cannot do life alone. As you journey through life, you need the help of others. It is important to relate to those at the same level as you with a degree of respect. Avoid looking down on others simply because you share the same age group, class, or environment. You never know the kind of connections someone may have that could be beneficial to you.

Also, avoid looking down on those whom you perceive as beneath you. They might be younger and less experienced, but they have their unique contributions to offer. Let me provide an example to illustrate this point. Whenever my mom seeks help with a technological problem, such as creating a Google Meet meeting link or navigating her phone interface, she turns to me for assistance. If she were to dismiss my knowledge with the thought, “Oh, she’s my daughter, what could she possibly know that I don’t already?” she would never find a solution. Age should not be a basis for disregarding someone’s potential or expertise. Do not discriminate against others or attempt to undermine their abilities.

The concept of being a “self-made millionaire” is often mentioned, but in reality, no one is truly self-made. To be self-made would mean achieving success without needing the help of anybody, whether through books, mentorship, or videos. It implies accomplishing everything solely through one’s own thoughts and efforts, without any assistance, direct or indirect. When you consider this, you’ll realize that no one is truly self-made. At some point, we all need the help of others.

You need the help of teachers, coaches, and those who have gone ahead of you in various fields. Why struggle to figure out the difficult parts on your own when you can rely on the efforts and experiences of those who have already paved the way? It can save you time and prevent unnecessary mistakes.

When the going gets tough, the tough seek collaboration. That’s a rephrasing by Kunle Soriyan of the well-known saying. When everything seems to be falling apart, that’s not the time to isolate yourself. Even the book of Proverbs emphasizes the importance of seeking counsel and guidance in times of difficulty, highlighting that safety can be found in the multitude of counselors.

Don’t let pride prevent you from asking for help. Don’t be too proud to admit that you don’t know something and need someone to guide you or connect you with others.

Personal relationships have helped me tremendously. They’ve rescued me from being stranded on numerous occasions. They’ve opened doors and shortened journeys that would have taken much longer if I had traveled alone.

Relationships are like currencies. Some doors don’t open to money; they open to relationships. Imagine wanting to meet the governor of a state. Even if you have all the money in the world, do you think the receptionist or secretary to the governor would let you in just because you have money? It’s unlikely. However, a call from an honorable or esteemed official, who might not even possess the same financial resources as you, can work wonders.

Let’s explore a biblical example of how relationships can preserve and protect you. Consider the relationship between Jonathan and David. Jonathan, the son of the king, held crucial information about David, and his intervention saved David’s life. Imagine if David had disregarded Jonathan’s position and importance. His life might have been cut short.

Another example is Abraham and Lot. Due to Abraham’s relationship with God, Lot and his family were saved from the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah, except for Lot’s wife, who turned into a pillar of salt.

The Scripture says, “I will give you shepherds after my own heart who will teach and guide you.” This highlights the concept of spiritual fatherhood and exemplifies the fatherhood of God. Many lives have been preserved from being cut short or falling into danger through the guidance and protection provided by spiritual fathers. These relationships have also helped many individuals reach the heights that God ordained for them. Personally, I have experienced the immense benefits of such relationships in more ways than I can count.

Other notable examples of beautiful relationships in the Bible include Naomi and Ruth, Esther and Mordecai, Jesus and his disciples, Elijah and Elisha, Moses and Joshua, among many others.

I understand that people may have hurt you, especially within the church. They may have caused you to distance yourself from others and live a life of isolation. However, that was not God’s original intention. When He created Adam, He declared that it is not good for man to be alone. This does not solely refer to marriage but includes friendships, partnerships, and other meaningful connections.

I pray that God heals your hurts and brings the right people into your life who will show you that relationships can be beautiful.

I would love to hear from you, dear one. Feel free to ask any questions you have in the comment section.

Until next time,

Bye!